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The Most Valuable Thing...
Board: Yakking It Up
Nov 19, 2007 5:52pm
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For the past two and a half months I have been working 6 nights a week and an average of 60 hours a week. I work third shift and start at 8 pm. I usually get out around 7 in the morning and then sleep most of the day. I have barely been able to do anything other than work and have had little time to be on AQ. I miss you all very much. I feel bad that I haven't been able to keep up on the boards and other such things. Then there is other things beside AQ I haven't had much time for like TV, Movies, or Disc Golf. So set aside hobbies, and I miss my friends and family even more. I have had little time to visit them. I have had little time to spend with my love Lady Lilac. With working SOO much and missing my AQ Friends, my hobbies, my friends, my family, and my love, I have come to realize that The most valuable thing to have is TIME. Time to spend with the ones you love and need, and time to do the things you love to do. If only we all had a little more time, we all might be a little happier.

chadams
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 19, 2007 5:54pm
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Ouch. That's a horrible schedule. Sleep less and you'll have a little more time.

*S
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 19, 2007 6:17pm
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Oh - I feel for you! I did night shift for so long and it is so draining! Keep those priorities on track and you will feel better - and you will likely find the time for what is important!
Hope the schedule lightens up soon-
Wood6
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 19, 2007 6:53pm
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I know what your talking about. I have been working 6 12 hour shifts a week. Working from 7p-7a. On your time off between shifts all you want to do is sleep. I don't even have time to eat except for lunch breaks at work. Don't know about you but I'm not sure how long I can keep this up. I feel for you. kmbaker
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 19, 2007 7:07pm
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Hear Hear! My hubby has said that time is really what demarkates the classes, not money.
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 19, 2007 10:23pm
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I worked 7p to 7a for SIX YEARS. Our motto was: If there aren't enough hours in the day, you can always work nights! However, after falling asleep at red lights, and by the grace of god not killing anyone on the freeway(after almost being hit by a bread truck) I now work swing. Nothing like a brush with death to set your priorities straight! HOpe you get your life back, soon!
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Reply to: #155026 by chadams
Nov 21, 2007 5:11am
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You are very correct, chadams! One of the reasons I love letterboxing is that it allows me to spend time with my kids and great friends ;-)) My other "main" hobby is sewing - while I love it, it mostly consists of me being in a back room alone. Not so great for the kids........

I've been reading a book on management of ADHD (not my son's main diagnosis, but I heard the author speak, and he has some very valuable information that does apply to my son's situation). This author stresses the importance of having a good loving relationship with your child, and letting the "other stuff" go - make the relationship a priority, and if you need to drop other commitments that are wearing you down - then drop them. Look at what's important!

Not telling you to drop your job or anything ;-)) THat's not what the book was saying!! But children with special issues need more time, and the author is very upfront with stating you will be spending more time "managing" this child, and managing his needs (educating yourself, educating and dealing with the school system, etc). The author makes the point about being an "executive parent" - one who makes the decisions for their child, rather than going along with what doctors/schools/etc say - you know your child best.

So I'm rambling - but this is the yakking it up board ;-)) This book is just saying a lot of things I need to hear now. Just like chadams just did!

Mama Fox - off to stare at a turkey and wonder what to do next ;-))
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Reply to: #155525 by The Little Foxes
Nov 21, 2007 6:38am
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Quote I've been reading a book on management of ADHD


What book?

DebBee
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Reply to: #155525 by The Little Foxes
Nov 21, 2007 6:58am
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Quote one who makes the decisions for their child, rather than going along with what doctors/schools/etc say - you know your child best.


Amen to that! I am the mother of and ADHD /OCD / learning disabled son. He is now 18 and about to graduate high school- I am soooo proud! I have 4 children, he is the 3rd. I was a single Mom for many years and I have always had to push him just a little bit more, without appearing to show "favoritism". When, in kindergarten, they told me they "had never seen a child like him"- I realized that I would have to take control of him, without relying on the school system. I have taught him to use his god given talents, (he is creative beyond belief!), and to not dwell on things he struggles with, (everyone struggles with SOMETHING). I have also taught him to NEVER use his diagnosis as an excuse for his actions. He has choices like everyone else, he just has to THINK more before he acts. He challenged me with this a few times in his teen years- and I cut him no slack when he screwed up. Today, he is a happy, funny, creative, intelligent young man, who respects his Mama and who is about to graduate high school and enroll in ITT to be a landscape designer and this Mom couldnt be prouder!!!

Sorry, every now and then- something touches me, and I guess the Holiday's make me remember how grateful I really am!
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Reply to: #155556 by Sailmates
Nov 21, 2007 7:41am
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>>>> I realized that I would have to take control of him, without relying on the school system. I have taught him to use his god given talents, (he is creative beyond belief!), and to not dwell on things he struggles with, (everyone struggles with SOMETHING).


Good for you! I teach trainable mentally handicapped kids of high school age. I find that, in general, people don't PUSH kids with disabilities, especially those more "serious", and they treat them as though they were different. Shame on those people. If we don't have HIGH expectations for all kids they will never learn to strive for all they can be. When my students do not perform, I chew them out.....just like I did my own kids. I explain why they need to do what I ask and why it needs to be the best they can do. Of course, some of my students will not be able to have any sort of job, but there are others who will be able to be employed. I tell my students "no" and "that's not right". If they are never told straight out that something is not acceptable, they can never fix it.....and that goes for general ed kids too.

We make wonderful strides with my students and they develop self-confidence from work well done, and also learn consequences of work not well done. Criticism must be tempered with praise and then sometimes you just have to get crazy with them and laugh and do things that do not resemble school stuff at all. One of the biggest laughs they got was when I went to sit in my rolling chair and missed!!!

OK....off my soapbox and FYI, I am an OLD teacher.

Zoe