Ok so why is it called "Singles Anonymous" anyway? Now it's true folks in the office don't walk around calling me preboxed, but it's not really true I'm entirely anonymous on AQ either. What gives?

Is there a 12 Step Program?

So, well, it's boring at work this week. I've already carved two stamps today. At least there IS A/C here unlike at home....so um, I have bit of free time.

Ladies and Gentlemen of the SA board, I give you my highly-modified-from-something-else...

12 STEPS OF SINGLES ANONYMOUS:

1. We admitted that we were powerless over singleness.

2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of serious absurdity.

3. Made a decision to turn our constant singlehood over to our sense of humor and learn to "lovingly and wholeheartedly" laugh at ourselves...and at others...as often as possible, if only in private.

4. Decided to give ourselves a break once in a while, instead of constantly doing searching and fearless inventories. Searching for letterboxes is way more fun and the only inventory we need is "which boxes haven't I found yet?"

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being that our wrongs were often in our heads. They say talking to yourself is a sign of intelligence. Getting an answer back is SO a sign of something else, no matter what you call "it!"

6. Were entirely ready to accept that our characters were as good as anybody else's and possibly better than most. Sometimes the only way to have characters is to make them up....maybe write stories about them.

7. Quit harping on our shortcomings. A harp is too big for my small apartment. So I'm gonna skip this one.

8. Made of list of all persons we thought we had harmed and saw that they'd forgotten all the crap we'd blown out of proportion. Never, ever a good idea to blow crap out of....never mind!

9. Quit making amends for breathing air and taking up a few square feet of the planet's surface. You know what? ALL of us are going to eventually take up a few square feet of space. About 6 foot under - give or take. This one is stupid.

10. Resigned ourselves to the fact we were going to criticize ourselves at times, but would try to stick to our guns when we knew we were right. It's all about the velcro.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to calm down and realize we're not responsible for everything. Besides, according to Colin Powell: ""Being responsible sometimes means pissing people off."

12. Having experienced immense relief from these steps, we would try to carry this message to other overly-single people and to practice these principles in all of our affairs. (And of course only married people have affairs....single people call it "fun!")

At least they're clearly called steps (not paces), but you're on your own for the compass bearing.....

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preboxed

Okay, this was great! So glad you are having a boring week at work.

Not so sure about the whole "Singles Anonymous" title either. Being one of those happily single folks, I'm not so sure I want a "support group" to help me deal with my singleness (started to make a crack about "self-help", but it just seemed a bit open to interpretation).


Hope

Not so sure about the whole "Singles Anonymous" title either. Being one of those happily single folks, I'm not so sure I want a "support group" to help me deal with my singleness

That's like having a drunk join AA that doesn't want help for his "problem." What are you doing here anyhow? ;o)

Maybe there should be a "Happily Single" board too, though, for single people who don't need "self help." =)

-- Ryan

Maybe there should be a "Happily Single" board too, though, for single people who don't need "self help."

How about an all encompassing *singles board*?

Shiloh

How about an all encompassing *singles board*?

Well, I was just joking in my last post. This board really is for all singles--even the happily single ones! =) I just liked the name of the board.

-- Ryan

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That's like having a drunk join AA that doesn't want help for his "problem." What are you doing here anyhow? ;o)

Why, I'm here trying to win converts to the "Happily Single" group. It's a whole counter-revolution thing! Working up to anarchy in the world order. Gotta start somewhere, you know. Why do I suddenly feel like the one who invites everyone to the house for cocktails after the AA meeting? :)

LOL!!! I, too, consider myself "Happily Single". (Altho' my ex was in my dream this morning, *@&$ him!) It's not the partnering part with which I seek help - it's the parenting. Oy!!

Have a marvelous day, all!

drexel girls

Can I still be single if I consider Sparky to be my significant other? He's kind, always ready to go boxing, doesn't care if I'm old and fat and loves me no matter what.

Oh, yeah, the single parenting is definitely the hardest part! Right now, I'm living for empty nest syndrome. I love my children and I have a full, active life with them, but I really look forward to being able to just throw stuff in the car and go, with no one at all to answer to!

My daughter is only 3, so I have a way to go. My deepest desire is to wake up AFTER 8:00 on a Saturday. It's funny how she can sleep past 7 Monday - Friday, but when Saturday hits, that girl is awake with the sun!

I wouldn't trade her for all the rubies in India, but I also like the days when I can go wherever I want whenever I want. They are few and far between. God bless Grandma for mom's days off! =)

I really look forward to being able to just throw stuff in the car and go, with no one at all to answer to

Yeah...I kinda like that part of being single. Only in my case it would be hop on the bike and take off. Having someone to share the trip with would be nice though.

Shiloh

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I really look forward to being able to just throw stuff in the car and go, with no one at all to answer to

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Only in my case it would be hop on the bike and take off.

Um ..in the first case...the Very Definition of Single-ness. Hello!

In the second, I don't think that means what you think I THINK it means. Pedals or to not to pedal????

The Princess Bride might not be the Best Movie EVER...but it has the best QUOTES EVER!
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093779/quotes

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The Grandson: Has it got any sports in it?
Grandpa: Are you kidding? Fencing, fighting, torture, revenge, giants, monsters, chases, escapes, true love, miracles...
The Grandson: Doesn't sound too bad. I'll try to stay awake.
Grandpa: Oh, well, thank you very much, very nice of you. Your vote of confidence is overwhelming.

Any sports, say with monsters? ;-P Ok, wait....never mind....dangerously! close to non-singleness!

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Vizzini: HE DIDN'T FALL? INCONCEIVABLE.
Inigo Montoya: You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Oh yeah still another reason for being single, being as how I know exactly what I think it means..

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pre

No pedals. think bigger and with an engine. BMW R1200R just in case you're wondering.

Shiloh

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Having someone to share the trip with would be nice though.

Sometimes I think I would like to have someone my age to travel with. A travelling companion would be great on longer trips, or to have someone besides my sometimes moody daughter to go boxing with. Lately it has been a matter of someone to share the driving (since neither of my children does that yet).

But I don't know that I would be willing to give up the independence of single life. In fact, at this particular stage in my journey, going down my own road at my own pace and in my own good time is working great for me.

A traveling friend would be nice....and some parenting help... (grin) But I never would have started letterboxing if I was still with the man I now call my Ex (whose idea of an adventure was a new show on TV). I have so much freedom now to go explore this world -- and I am hoping that my kids (who come along whether they want to or not) will grow up loving adventures too.

I gotta jump in here and say that I'm very happy to be single. I wouldn't have it any other way!

Jumping in to say I'm new to being single, but... so far, so good!

Don't know about those 12 steps... think I'll hang for awhile before I look for a "cure"


;-) HP

Welcome to singleness. Where you control the remote, you can eat over the sink, walk around in your underwear, and can have the TV/radio/CD player on as loud as you want. And nobody tells you what to do, how to do it and when to do it! You also get to take out the garbage on your own, fix the car and house on your own and make all the end of life pet care decisions on your own. I liked being married (22 years) but I do like being single better (10+ years).

<<<Welcome to singleness. Where you control the remote, you can eat over the sink, walk around in your underwear, and can have the TV/radio/CD player on as loud as you want. And nobody tells you what to do, how to do it and when to do it! You also get to take out the garbage on your own, fix the car and house on your own and make all the end of life pet care decisions on your own. I liked being married (22 years) but I do like being single better (10+ years).>>>>>

I was 30 years married and 7 years single....but single does have its drawbacks. If you could find a guy who would let you do what you wanted, when you wanted..that might be ok. Shoot, I'd even continue to take out the garbage!
zoemomma

My least favorite job is the yard. I hate hate hate to mow the lawn. I'll take out the garbage any day!!!

Yellsalot

you can eat over the sink, walk around in your underwear

I don't see why a man would have a problem with this. :)

Shiloh

you can eat over the sink, walk around in your underwear

I don't see why a man would have a problem with this. :)

Shiloh



LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Humor is a wonderful thing!

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If you could find a guy who would let you do what you wanted, when you wanted..that might be ok.

Maybe it's because I've never been married and that my parents' marriage was unconventional, but I may be interpreting this wrong.

What do you mean when you say "let?" I'm not attacking you at all... just wondering from the POV of anyone on this board who has ever been married, is it about permission? Is there a lot of that to look forward to if I get married?

I haven't asked anyone for permission to do anything in at least 7 years... I don't think I could start if I had to.

Quote: If you could find a guy who would let you do what you wanted, when you wanted..that might be ok.

Maybe it's because I've never been married and that my parents' marriage was unconventional, but I may be interpreting this wrong.

What do you mean when you say "let?" I'm not attacking you at all... just wondering from the POV of anyone on this board who has ever been married, is it about permission? Is there a lot of that to look forward to if I get married?

I haven't asked anyone for permission to do anything in at least 7 years... I don't think I could start if I had to.



IT'S NOT ABOUT PERMISSION, IT'S ABOUT COMMON COURTESY...THAT'S WHAT THE "LET" IS ABOUT. I have been alone long enough now that I like not answering to anyone else. I'm not sure whether I want to get back into a situation where I ASK if it's OK to do something....if what I want to do won't infringe on them. If you can't blend your life with someone, then you don't need to be married....but aloneness is not necessarily bad.

Gee. time to lighten up!

And I would hope that by the time you get to marrying someone, letting the other person do what they wanted would be a non-issue. Hopefully, you will have already agreed on how much time is spent together and with other friends or alone... and hobbies/interests wouldn't be offensive to the other person. At least, that's what I found when I got married... by the time we made it to the altar, we were both comfortable with each other's daily routines, etc.

Really, I wasn't intending to offend anyone. Just asking. I truly don't know what a normal marriage looks like. Yes, it's kind of a stumbling block...

<<Really, I wasn't intending to offend anyone. Just asking. I truly don't know what a normal marriage looks like. Yes, it's kind of a stumbling block...>>>>

No offense taken by me!!!!! I'm mostly too old to offend!

I hear you on all counts! I spent decades as a single parent. I found that while the day to day stuff was grueling, it was much worse to have an able bodied other there but not involved. When you realize the only difference between being with a partner and being without one is having to mow the lawn and take out the garbage yourself you realize that single parenting is a gift! A break every now and then would be wonderful, but a gift nonetheless! Enjoy the time and try not to have to be too perfect!

And, yes, someday it does ease up and you can throw your stuff in the car or on the floor and eat cookies for breakfast if you want to without anyone to answer to - THAT, my dear, is the true reward of single-ness!

oOoooo - next year one for me, I hope! Can't wait for that! New car and last kiddo hitting college this year. Next year is all mine!!!

Are you the Queen of Swords from the Glenville mini gathering?? :-)