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Can I just vent
Board: Yakking It Up
Jan 29, 2019 6:55am
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About how sucky people are? Last year, I emailed my family about interest in a family reunion....got a bunch of replies saying oh great idea, let us know, etc. Got a few of probably interested, but cant commit for next summer yet. Got a lot of no responses.

3 weeks ago, sent out an email asking which of two weekends works better and will go with majority. Got a few saying either is fine, not one that said one OR the other. Got a lot of no replies. SO I pick a weekend, work with one cousin to find a place that is sort of in the middle and put out info saying ok, book it. Now all the sudden, no one is free. I got one "if so and so goes, we wont go", one said they have to take a kid to school, and a few non commits. One said they are going on a mini vacation from KY to OH with a stop in Niagara Falls. Since when is Niagara Falls on the way back to KY? And to add insult to injury, I live 90 minutes from NF and have been asking this cousin for YEARS to come visit! So she comes when we are not here??

So instead of potentially 14 families, I have maybe 3. Everyone says great idea, but no one wants to commit to going!

And on another note...whats up with people not planning anything for just an evening. My daughter and I get together during the off season with a bunch of her hockey girls and the moms. We asked over a month ago for dates and settled on this Saturday. A few told us that their girl works on Saturdays, but the rest of them said they had to wait to see if their kid got scheduled. One girl was going to come but all the sudden accepted a babysitting job. Is it not worth asking for one night off? These kids are not working for survival....they don't need this money, these are the kids that have moms that don't blink when buying a $600 prom dress. So out of 9 girls 2 are free. My kid wants to reschedule but I think whats the point...it will be the same thing....a wait and see if they get scheduled or something else comes up.

No one commits to anything anymore....daughter has friends that will say they can do something on a Saturday and then all the sudden cant. Then posts pictures that they are doing something with someone else. Is this just the age? I do not remember doing that when I was a teen. Is it the era? If you blew someone off to do something else with someone else back in the day, there was no digital proof of it and you mostly got away with it. Now they post everything so everyone knows exactly who is doing what with who....

Ok rant over....thanks for listening....obviously I couldn't post this to my facebook as most of the people I am talking about would see it! Its so frustrating to be a pen and everyone else is a pencil.
Re: Can I just vent
Board: Yakking It Up
Reply to: #970776 by Crazyolis
Jan 29, 2019 7:04am
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Have a letterboxing event instead. Plant it and they will come! 🤗
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Reply to: #970777 by Acorns4u
Jan 29, 2019 8:26am
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And you can call it "The Venting Event" and have people carve stamps of angry (but funny) people and animals (I see a baboon showing teeth, or a howler monkey when thinking of this).
~SD~
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Reply to: #970776 by Crazyolis
Jan 29, 2019 10:43am
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What weekend did you pick?
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Reply to: #970776 by Crazyolis
Jan 29, 2019 11:30am
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I would say that the people who dashed back a 'oh that's great' response probably didn't really give it a lot of thought. Human nature.

if so and so goes, we won't go

Screw them with that attitude. Seriously. Cross them off the list and move on. Trying to plan something like this is stressful enough without worrying about people like that.

One said they are going on a mini vacation from KY to OH with a stop in Niagara Falls. Since when is Niagara Falls on the way back to KY? And to add insult to injury, I live 90 minutes from NF and have been asking this cousin for YEARS to come visit! So she comes when we are not here??

I imagine they planned this trip when they could go? Maybe you don't have all the pertinent info? .....regardless of a family reunion date? Or whether or not you would be there?

As for the teenage girl thing I agree to keep the original date and get together with whoever shows up and forget the rest of the crap. You'll drive yourself nuts getting stressed out about who does this or that or doesn't do this or that.

There's just a lot of b**ls**t in this world that we have to try and let go of. It can be really hard but it can help us avoid a lot of stress. Life is just too freaking short.

So instead of potentially 14 families, I have maybe 3. Everyone says great idea, but no one wants to commit to going!

Depending on how important this is to you, maybe just tell people that due to not enough people going, it has been cancelled? That's a decision you would have to make. :(
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Reply to: #970776 by Crazyolis
Jan 29, 2019 11:36am
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You will have a blast with the ones who show. Post lots of (potentially) jealousy-inducing photos to Facebook. Love the one you're with.
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Reply to: #970790 by Goofy girl
Jan 29, 2019 12:23pm
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The third weekend in July! You wanna come....you can be part of the family!
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Reply to: #970776 by Crazyolis
Jan 29, 2019 7:49pm
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I totally get you on this! I've lost a lot of "friends" over the past few years because of their inability to be reliable. We'd schedule just a simple lunch for a few weeks out and then I'd be on my way there, sometimes driving for a solid chunk of time, for them to text me and be like "oh, my mom says I can't go." Is that so? You're 23 and your mother says you can go out for pizza at 11:30 on a tuesday? Then an hour later they're posting on snapchat that they're out bowling or something with another friend.

I think it's part of the new "millennial culture" where nothing is urgent and reliability and expectations are jokes...

I really really like the idea of a "venting event". I don't want to promise anything but I will make every effort to go no matter where it is and will ONLY rsvp yes if I know I can make it :)
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Reply to: #970822 by buddyjumper
Jan 30, 2019 7:39am
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I really really like the idea of a "venting event".

Festivus occurs every year and includes airing of grievances...
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Reply to: #970800 by Crazyolis
Jan 31, 2019 4:24pm
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Ill check the calendar!
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Reply to: #970901 by Goofy girl
Jan 31, 2019 5:57pm
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Im sorry i so wish i could come and be family -one kid comes back from camp, family reunjon for hubbys side that weekend and hibby is out of town...