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Board: Teen Boxing
Jan 29, 2012 6:47pm
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Hey guys,
One of my good friends recently confessed to me that she is on the way to getting anorexia. Her parents know, and she is going to counselors and stuff, but I don't think she has told any other friends. I don't have lunch with her, but still want to help her out however I can. I don't want to be insensitive or make her uncomfortable though. What should I do?
Thanks,
KM&CC
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Board: Teen Boxing
Reply to: #672739 by Kitty MoMar and Clever C
Jan 30, 2012 6:52am
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Sometimes, one of the very best things you can do is be there to listen. If your friend confided in you that she is struggling, it means she wants you to know and feels you are trustworthy to have that information. If she is in fact meeting with counselors and her parents are aware, then she is hopefully in good hands in that regard and there should be fewer reasons (such as an immediate risk of her health, etc.) for you to have to share the information with others. Let her share it with those she wishes to know, while being a good listener for her as a friend. Often, those struggling with pre-eating disorders or eating disorders need to know they are not alone with their difficulties and feel they have a sense of belonging and connection with others. As for awkwardness in being around her regarding eating times, let her lead the discussions and try not to put an emphasis on her food intake or issues with food, eating disorders tend to stem from feelings of being out of control emotionally, having unresolved emotional pain, or insecurities about one's self - the focus on food is an area of control, but often is not the main area of need for support.

Hope this helps some. FORAYCH - Jeff
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Board: Teen Boxing
Reply to: #672795 by FORAYCH
Jan 30, 2012 6:13pm
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Thanks so much-I'll definitely keep those things in mind.
KM&CC